Marriage

What I Used To Think About Marriage Before I Got Married

Then after getting married, I realized that marriage can turn out to be a heavenly experience or worse than hell depending upon the life partner. He/She could resurrect you from the dead or turn you into ashes.

Ansh

Ansh

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I am not sure, earlier I used to think that I am complete on my own, that it will be better to know more about myself, to find myself if I am on my own.

I thought that people get married to fill the deep void inside. And it can never be filled by things or a person. Only I, myself, can do that.

Additionally, I thought that marriage is one more bondage, an obstacle on the way to self-realization. Buddha very rightly said:

Attachment is the root cause of suffering

At least that's the opinion I held at that time.

But then I thought I will miss on certain beautiful experiences of Life if I don’t get married (sharing Life) and maybe that someone could help me on my quest and in return, I could do the same.

Just like I feel happy by sharing things or making someone happy, I thought maybe I will feel happy sharing my life too….but with someone special!

You do what you feel like
I do what I feel like
(without hurting each other's sentiments, of course) and,
if we still feel like
liking each other
then we may have a match.

My senior said that marriage is so that men don’t go insane, women help keep men sane. I agree with him to some extent.

Then I finally uttered, 'To hell with the BS, let's get married!"

I knew that I won't do it in a jiffy. I will take my time to get to know that person deeply. So, I searched online and came across this:

40 Deep Questions To Ask If You Really Want To Know Someone
These deep questions will help you get to know someone on an intimate level, and give you a peek into the kind of person they really are.
The Minds JournalAlexandra Hall

Then after getting married, I realized that marriage can turn out to be a heavenly experience or worse than hell depending upon the life partner. He/She could resurrect you from the dead or turn you to ashes.

And I think I am very lucky and fortunate that the gamble of selecting a life partner through arrangement worked quite well for me (well, at least so far! :-P).

What has been your experience so far? What are your thoughts on marriage? Let me know in the comments below.

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